– Laura Davis
1. Fight Response
We are quick to anger. Our reactions look big, angry, loud, and can appear, or feel unpredictable. In this response, I need to fight to keep myself safe. Even if the danger is not a “real” in the moment danger, this can be a response to a perceived danger.
2. Flight Response
We are quick to flee the scene. Our reactions can look like a workaholic, if I keep myself busy, I do not need to face, or even think about the trigger, the issue. This can also look like extreme anxiety, panic attacks, extreme avoidance, ghosting, and procrastination.
3. Freeze Response
We do not know what to do, so nothing it is. This response can look like extreme depression, isolation, fatigue or feeling tired all the time, brain fog, just not feeling all there, feeling like life is in slow motion, and a lack of focus.
4. Fawn Response
We try to make the situation perfect; we try to be perfect for others. We also can be engaged in self-destructive behavior. This response can look like people pleasing, feeling unable to leave abusive or toxic relationships, lack of healthy boundaries, and inconsistency.
These responses can occur a scale, and a variety of these behaviors may happen at once. These are some of the ways that people have adapted and learned to deal with life stressors while growing up.
At the end of the day, it is important to remember that we are not defined by our environment, or by our unfortunate life experiences. I am Me. And I get to choose who that is. I get to decide my purpose, my path, I get to choose my reactions. I can heal. I can be who I want to be. I can be proud of who I am.